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Tribute to Doyin Oyeyinka
Related to country: Nigeria

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The sun named Doyin rose on the 20th of March, 1982.
That sun set on the 21st of March, 2009, after a protracted illness. (Imagine using these words for someone I know very well).
That sun lit up so many people's lives.
The sun named Doyin was full of life. Never one to be bored.
She had so many interests and too many things to feel her life.
She was quite artistic- dance, song, makeup, decorations etc
She was also a good organiser:- she was involved in many pet projects such as the first ever french club for medical students in Nigeria.
she was one of the pioneers of Spirit of David (the first dance/choreography group)
She was forward thinking, ( although at times, she could behave strangely, but it never lasted)
We never knew the occasional manifestations of strange behaviour was a pointer to something quite sinister- a disease with a very long name.
Doyin, you will be greatly missed. I hope many people who think well of you will be encouraged by this piece.
Doyin, rest ehn! rest!! ( You mean I will not see your dazzling smile again!!)
I know you are resting wherever you are.
Even though you are not with us, I want to say, " remain blessed".
I know you will be useful in the children's department, sorting department in heaven.
You are missed, but it is for the best.
As the Yorubas of the south west region of Nigeria say,
"Sun re o!!!

(Below are few pictures of Doyin in her better days. I would like those who knew her to remember when she was alright)

April 2, 2009 | 3:09 PM Comments  0 comments



The African Woman (series contd)
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March 2, 2009 | 8:51 PM Comments  0 comments

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The African Woman 1
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Who is the African Woman?
My definition of the African Woman is this :-
She is one whose sin was to be born a woman in a regular African setting, and is condemned to a life of toil and struggle all her days.

Many people would not agree with me, but just read on.....

When the African Woman is born, especially as a first child, people are not as excited as they would have been if it was a boy.
Her mother is not also happy, and ensures she gives birth If she is unlucky to be born after a succession of girls, you can imagine her woes. Her own mother would not show her the love and attention she needs simply because she is a woman.

She grows up in the kitchen or backyard where she learns to take care of the home at an early age,while her male counterpart plays football.

As she approaches puberty, the situation gets worse. In some parts of africa, she is married off to some old hag.
She begins menstruation, and with it the regular menstrual pains. Her counterpart in civilised world will be well attended to when she has her monthly pains. Not so the african woman.
If she is lucky to be educated, it stops at the secondary school level, she should be ambitious to attend institutions of higher learning.

At this time, if she has not be married off, impoverished suitors come for her hand in marriage.
Should she be the meek type, she gets married, and then begins another level of suffering. many times she fends for the house needs, alongside giving birth every year.
By the time she is fifty years old, she is already a grandmother and looks older than the late QueenMother of England.

to be continued.........

February 19, 2009 | 11:05 AM Comments  0 comments



Sole ambition: Get married; Favourite hobby: Child bearing
Related to country: Nigeria

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I have seen ladies whose sole ambition is to get married and bear children. And if you ask me, they can't afford to take care of themselves properly, not to talk of taking care of another human being,(it is well known that the care of newborns is intensive).
Of course it is the wish of any sane lady to get married and bear children. But people forget that we do not have
There are some ladies who get married early, but have difficulty bearing children;
Others marry early and get divorced;
Still others get married and have children who become hooligans; and some other women's children become useful.

There is an epidemic - Marriage by fire!!
Many women, in the name of being addressed as "MRS" fall into the hands of the first guy that proposes. They get pregnant, or even give birth before the marriage. One lady i know fell into labour on her wedding day. So all the pictures were ruined, and had to be retaken after the birth of the baby. Na wa o!!

When these ladies get married, come the next hurdle-
child-bearing and rearing. Can you imagine in these austere times, a woman giving birth to 4,5, 6 or more children!!!!!!!

Do you know the most annoying thing? They push the responsiblity of taking care of these children on people like us who planned our lives, use appropriate contraceptives and are living well.

I am not saying they should not get married and bear children, but they should lie on the bed they made.




February 19, 2009 | 10:45 AM Comments  0 comments



Nigerian Tribalities
Related to country: Nigeria

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I am an Igbo girl, from Abia state. I don't like to be identified with any tribe in Nigeria.
Some people at first glance call me an Ibo girl; they sometimes ask if I hail from the South-South region of Nigeria, and yet others say I look Yoruba.
In a few cases, I get annoyed that I am told I look like some other tribe; and it dawned on me that we are human beings created in the image of God and so we should not discriminate against one another.
Now I ask these questions:
What is it about another tribe or ethnic group that we become incensed when we are mistaken for a member of the tribe?
Is there the perfect tribe or race? Many Africans would like to be refered to as Indians, or caucasians rather than their native tribes or ethnic groups.

Just now, someone called me a Yoruba girl and I did not like it.

If we can get over tribal differences, we can avoid some aimless crisis that claim lives and properties.

This write-up is relevant to me as it is to others.
No race, tribe, or ethnic group is better than the other. What happens is that one group decides to make use of its resources while another group wastes resources.

I have a new identity- i am a Zionite. hmm

December 8, 2008 | 7:00 AM Comments  0 comments



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